In My Opinion; The Most Attractive

Other than "the givens" --you know, that he is a good and kind person, that he loves God, and he likes me, that he thinks my jokes are funny, and that he agrees with me that Texas is the finest of all states--I've come to the conclusion that there are basically two things that a guy can do that make him seriously attractive.


1. He asks the girl on dates.  I recognize this is not a super hipster view of the dating situation currently, but I'm admittedly old fashioned on this one. Now, I am also a southern, Texas girl, and I happen to hail from a place where it is simply more of an expectation than a special situation that guys hold the door open for a girl and such, so maybe I'm a little biased. I honestly could write a whole post about this subject, but bottom line, I find it incredibly attractive to know  that a guy is interested in dating me, and telling  me he'd like to take me on a date is a pretty sure-fire way of getting that point across.  And guys I know it's nerve-wracking to ask a girl out, but when a boy calls me up, and there's a hint of nervousness in his voice, I'll be honest, I just melt.

2. He offers to help.  Once, I dated this really sweet guy; he was kind and always told me I was beautiful, and I won't complain about that, that was real nice.  But, at the time I was working two jobs with crazy hours, and he never even offered to help me out in any way.  Instead, he actually would get frustrated if I had other obligations and couldn't go out on a date with him.  I didn't realize it until later, but that was the most alone I've honestly ever felt. (It's not a great idea to be in need of help, and not know how to ask for it, and then get into a relationship with someone who has no clue how to offer it...) Another time though, I dated someone while I was juggling a lot of responsibilities from a calling at church, and this guy would literally come walk next to me while I was going around like a crazy person taking care of those responsibilities.  And in contrast to that first situation, this second guy's support made me feel more taken care of and cared about then almost anything else anyone has done for me.  So if a guy offers to come help me do anything, even as simple as helping me to carry my bags, despite the fact that I'm pretty darn independent, it just makes me appreciate him 10 times more.  And it's the same if I see him offer to help other people.  It's real attractive.  Just sayin.



On the other hand, here are some things I could not care less about:

1. His muscles.  I readily admit that I'm not the best at going to the gym consistently, so I honestly do admire how much commitment it takes for him to work out to get those big muscles.  But, if they don't make him any kinder, or more witty, funny, or better at conversation, it just doesn't make that much of a difference to me.

2. How much money he makes.  I. Don't. Care.  I mean, there are some red flags related to this subject--such as massive amounts of debt, or a lack of motivation to work--but hey, no matter what your profession is, as long as you're a dedicated and hard worker, life can be real good.  I'm more impressed by a guy's drive and passion than his paycheck.


Anyway, these are just some thoughts I've had lately.  Thanks for indulging me and reading my rant.  Peace and Blessings y'all.

Grateful for: Knowing scads of wonderful people.  I'd be real ungrateful if I didn't acknowledge how much dang love is in my life.